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There are some odd coves on this Live Journal thing of ours; that should pretty much go without saying, I suppose. LJ is a type of blog, and both are subsets of the wonderful world wide web, a place where, so far and despite various governments’ attempts, pretty much anything goes and the only thing that regulates it effectively is an individual’s self regulation.

You don’t like a subject? Don’t look it up. Don’t like a website? Don’t visit it (although occasionally there is a morbid curiosity involved, like prodding a dead sheep’s carcase with a stick when you’re a kid). Most of us have on our friends’ lists, assortments of people we’ve never physically met, and of those we have met, many are really only occasional acquaintances about whom we really know very little even if we like that person.

So why do people get all proprietary about being on someone else’s friends’ list? If you have never actually met a person, why should he or she get upset if they are removed from your friends’ list? I’ll admit to being put out the first time someone “de-friended” me, and feeling all miffed for a few minutes until a little rationality set in. I have no idea why I was annoyed, I can’t remember who the hell they were and I’d certainly never met them. Since then people have appeared briefly on my “friend of” list, and then gone again. If they stick around for any length of time, I might add them back if they’re interesting, or if I actually know who they are, I will usually add them back anyway.

I think now, I’d only be put out if someone I regarded as a close friend dropped me from their friends’ list, and even that would depend upon circumstances. If they never updated for instance, they might just be closing down their account, or if it’s someone you see regularly you are probably up to date with them anyway.

It depends upon what you want from your journal, I suppose, but I doubt that anyone is ever going to reach close ‘bosom buddy’ status if the only contact is through an anonymous computer screen displaying text. So there’s no point in being upset if they disappear from your journal acquaintances.

Of course, if you take the trouble to meet someone physically, that you know only through their written journals, and then that person ditches you from their friends’ list and changes their email, well, oops! But that’s not quite the same thing, is it?

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Date: 2006-01-17 01:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] failing-angel.livejournal.com
Sounds like something fun happened.

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Date: 2006-01-17 01:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ash1977law.livejournal.com
Yes, do tell.

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Date: 2006-01-17 01:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bluesman.livejournal.com
Yes, someone added me to their friends list a while ago, and seemed most put out that I did not add him to mine. I was bemused by this, and shrugged and added him. What does it matter? Friends will come and go.

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Date: 2006-01-17 02:07 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] oldnick.livejournal.com
It did strike me that the chap in question would have rapidly vanished from my friends list, had he been an electronic-only 'friend of a friend' who reacted that badly.

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Date: 2006-01-17 02:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] littleonions.livejournal.com
*sigh* alright,alright stop fishing you can come and visit anytime :P
If you're in Venice next week we could perhaps meet up for a smoothy?

Not to be petty or nothing but...
I have photographs of you,therefore own a part of your soul; defriend me and I shall wreak a terrible and macabre revenge. :)


(some of the above may not be true)

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Date: 2006-01-17 02:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] caddyman.livejournal.com
You have photographs?

Of me?

How'd you manage that? I thought I'd burnt all the negatives...

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Date: 2006-01-17 02:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] littleonions.livejournal.com
You have photographs?

Of me?

How'd you manage that? I thought I'd burnt all the negatives...


Well doh, I stalk you! hello? *sheesh*
Or it could be because of some Grand Design's that some folks had a few summers back...who knows? keep the curtains closed just in case eh? *eville grin*

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Date: 2006-01-17 04:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] trav28.livejournal.com
I only really do the de-friend thing if someone royally pisses me off - other than that I don't tend to ditch people. Sometimes I do skim over their LJ if they constantly do memes or posts with lack of substance.

I didn't add someone recently because they friended me - have only made one LJ entry and obviously "picture sniffing" or so I think (looking at their community memberships).

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Date: 2006-01-17 05:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ysharros.livejournal.com
I haven't de-friended you because you're bigger than me (by height, anyway) and I are scared of you. That, and I have very few friends anyway so I'm a little desperate.

/grin

I'm going to join the queueueueue of people asking for gory details. Gawon gawon gawon gawon gawon haveacupoftea you know you want to tell us.

(PS As for being defriended for making boring entries - aieee, I be dunfer.)

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Date: 2006-01-17 11:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] romney.livejournal.com
With a friend like me you can skip having enemies

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Date: 2006-01-18 01:04 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] colonel-maxim.livejournal.com
I say, if I defriend you, will you be awfully offended?

Not that I can afford to do so, you understand, the only reason I maintain this blog is to keep an eye on your black propoganda.

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